As I refined my ability to communicate, the practice of keeping it simple did wonders. Here are the ABCs and 123s from my learning along with John Maxwell’s guidance for ways to keep it simple. Regardless of circumstances, they can help you connect with the people that matter most.
Over the years there are a few themes I have kept coming back to because I think they are so important. One of them is “the motherload.” That’s the somewhat intangible (and to men, sometimes invisible) load of responsibility, care, worry, planning and keeping track that usually falls on mothers’ shoulders.
I imagine many dads may struggle with staying calm in the midst of challenging times. Despite our best effort, something can always push our buttons and result in momentarily losing control of our voices. That being said, it’s crucial to learn better ways to respond in the moment and communicate in calm, respectful ways. Making this change is important if you truly want to raise confident and successful children.
The goal of this post is not to condemn the fact you yell – it’s to help you decrease, and ultimately stop yelling at your kids. From personal experience, let me tell you it’s worth the time and energy to improve in this area.
As dads, we have a big part to play in establishing the relationship ‘atmosphere’ in our home. The more you can embrace healthy relationship skills, model, and reinforce them – the more you’ll see your children respond.
The reality is that any time you have more than one child there is bound to be some fighting. Despite that fact, you can still set your kids up for success. By helping them learn important skills and modeling how to work through conflict you can tame the tensions.