Every parent wants to get their kid to listen. Sometimes it probably seems like nothing you ever say is heard, and your kids do exactly the opposite of what you want them to do. That can be very hard to handle, but thankfully this is a topic we talked about with Dr. Gregory Fabiano.
The role you play as a dad in your family will depend on what your children are like, what you and your partner are like, and the type of work you both do. But it all starts with what your children need. And the more attention you pay to all their needs, the less you’ll be asking, “What’s my role?”
I imagine many dads may struggle with staying calm in the midst of challenging times. Despite our best effort, something can always push our buttons and result in momentarily losing control of our voices. That being said, it’s crucial to learn better ways to respond in the moment and communicate in calm, respectful ways. Making this change is important if you truly want to raise confident and successful children.
The goal of this post is not to condemn the fact you yell – it’s to help you decrease, and ultimately stop yelling at your kids. From personal experience, let me tell you it’s worth the time and energy to improve in this area.
As dads, we have a big part to play in establishing the relationship ‘atmosphere’ in our home. The more you can embrace healthy relationship skills, model, and reinforce them – the more you’ll see your children respond.
The reality is that any time you have more than one child there is bound to be some fighting. Despite that fact, you can still set your kids up for success. By helping them learn important skills and modeling how to work through conflict you can tame the tensions.
What you do as a father affects your hormones more than your hormones affect what you do as a father. In other words, if you want and need to be a hands-on dad, put in the time and effort. Your hormones will support and reward you.