Getting your kids to clean their rooms can be easy with the right approach. Make cleaning time fun by getting organized and talking to your kids in a way that engages them.

Organizing Techniques:

1. Develop realistic expectations. Children often view their room as the space they can control. This is especially true for pre-teens and teens, who are often seeking privacy. You do need to guard against any health hazards, especially if your kids have dust allergies. On the other hand, it’s okay to value a happy family life over keeping every surface pristine.

  • Don’t worry – most kids who throw their clothes on the floor still grow up to be responsible adults!

2. Set a good example. Kids always pay more attention to what you do than to what you say. If you put away your clothes, they’re more likely to follow your lead eventually. By taking care of your belongings and creating an orderly environment, you send a message that these are good habits.

3. Ban food in the bedroom. Except for water, keeping food out the bedroom will prevent many messes from ever happening. Eating in the kitchen and dining room also encourages more family time and less excessive snacking.

4. Clear away clutter. It may be difficult to clean if you’ve got too many possessions. Make a family tradition of regularly getting rid of unused or worn-out items. Let kids help pick the charity where they want to donate their old toys. Alternately, have a garage sale and share the profits with your kids.

5. Invest in storage solutions. Make it easy for kids to keep everything in its proper place and you can all spend a lot less time straightening up. Put frequently used items on lower shelves and hooks where small children can reach them. Get big bins for large items and small bins to keep items with multiple parts organized.

6. Teach your kids how to clean. Kids will be less resistant to cleaning if they feel confident about basic tasks. Praise them for helping you dust or make the beds so they’ll learn by observing and imitating.

7. Break cleaning sessions down into manageable chunks. Children have limited attention spans. Cleaning for 10 or 15 minutes at a time will often get better results than marathon sessions.

8. Do some regular maintenance. It’s easier to keep a neat room tidy. Make morning or evening pick-up times a daily ritual. Do a little dusting before your Saturday outings.

Communication Techniques:

 1. Invite your child’s input. Help your child to value their surroundings by giving them a voice in decorating their room. They can help shop for storage systems or choose wall art they like.

2. Work together. Household tasks can be a time for you and your child to enjoy each other’s company and conversation. Small children need plenty of guidance when cleaning. As they get older, you can back off a little on supervising and just do some spot-checking.

3. Develop educational games. Cleaning games are a great way to entertain and educate small children. Drill them on vocabulary by naming household items, or play counting games as you roll up socks.

4. Offer choices and rewards. Everyone likes to be given choices. Ask your child if they want to clean their room before or after soccer practice. Use positive praise and rewards to reinforce good behaviour.

Most children have messy rooms from time to time. Set reasonable standards and communicate effectively to make cleaning fun and efficient. You’ll be rewarded with a better relationship with your kids and a neater home.

About The Author – Ed Gough, Jr.

Ed's experience working with fathers and men injects an extra dose of thoughtfulness into all of his conversations in these areas. His mission is to bring purpose and clarity to fathers' and men's lives. He believes that "the better men are, the better the world will be". 

Ed has been a member of Dad central (Ontario) Steering Committee since May 2019. Ed hosts Dad Central's monthly epic events and was the moderator for the "Dad's Panel" at the 2019 Side-by-Side: Fatherhood Matters in the Early Years" conference.

Ed has been the host and producer of his own award winning online show The Dr. Vibe Show™ for the last decade. He's done over 2000 interviews with people from all over the world. In 2018, The Dr. Vibe Show™ was the recipient of the Innovation Award by the Canadian Ethnic Media Association (CEMA). Since May 2013, The Dr. Vibe Show™ is the first and only online show to be regularly featured on the popular U.S. based men’s website The Good Men Project.

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